How to understand something that you are not raise for?
How to have a decision on a situation where no answer is the right answer?
How to seek for support when you do not know exactly the consequences of this support?
How to know when to judge and when to discern??
What is really discernment?????
Wikipedia translation:
Discernment is the ability to obtain sharp perceptions or to judge well (or the activity of so doing). In the case of judgment, discernment can be psychological or moral in nature. In the sphere of judgment, discernment involves going past the mere perception of something and making nuanced judgments about its properties or qualities. Considered as a virtue, a discerning individual is considered to possess wisdom, and be of good judgement; especially so with regard to subject matter often overlooked by others.
During the last period we are living a situation when no decision is the right decision, sometimes, if one seeks for the right decision, one can take too much time, and still not deciding, or deciding, but with a frustration that can not allow the celebration of finally deciding…
How to deal then, with a situation when one can not feel comfortable with anything, how to feel in peace in case the no answer is not acceptable, meaning, waiting is not an option and you have to find a decision despite of not having information enough or despite of being sure that none of the solutions are the exactly right ones???
The last one year was a PHD on discernment… The moment we unveiled the real meaning of discernment it was so clear, it was so liberating…
Following C P Spurgeon, Discernment is not knowing the difference between right or wrong, it is knowing the difference between right and almost right… We have translated on a way that fits better our situation, following the “2015/2016 team”; Discernment is not deciding what is the best solution, but being able to distinguish between the worst and the least worst – then being able to follow your intuition and feel comfortable deciding on what is least worst – knowing that the consequence of both decision will bring to not good consequences, but the decision you are following will have a smaller impact in the future, meaning a better long term decision…
Then comes the courage and the “guts” – to assume the responsibilities of the consequences, and ALWAYS, always remember – during the journey – that the decision was based on the long term, even if the journey takes you to be hurt, to have to struggle, to have to stand for your decisions – always the solution during the journey, whenever you have doubts, is to ask: “the journey I am taking should lead me to the result which has the least impact – is this way still correct?”
If you have chosen the least worst solution and picture the impacts, anytime during the journey you can redirect your way, and you can always find alternatives, and nothing is written in stone, the important is to remember that you are looking for the best decision, because if you will forget this, anytime during the journey you will be sure that you are wrong, as the decision to pick the least worst will oblige you to take responsibility for your acts, and they might not be good…
…well, why to share this right now?
I share it, because the way to go might be very lonely, unless others understand it and do not judge you for making decisions that are hard, and better than this is if your have partners for the journey who do believe in it, and have the courage to fight the battles and also live a life where fear is not a barrier and indeed seeks a purpose and see the transcendental result of decisions, seeing how important is to go ahead, humboldt, but never, never losing sight of our dreams, values and purpose…
So, if you are living a period of difficult decisions, changing perspective might help – are you not finding the best solution, all solutions do not look good enough?? Then change your glasses – ask your self, from each decision I would take, which are the consequences? … and which out of all consequences seem to be the least worst? …and which out of all consequences seem to be the one that I will be able to live with when I look back sometime in the future??
The real wisdom does not consists on taking always the right decision, but indeed the real wisdom consists on having the courage to take a decision that is not the perfect one, but a decision that, in the future, is seen as the right one, when all is visible, and is also seen as a very hard decision to take, but also a decision that can not be avoid, but if avoided, the consequences are much, much stronger…
Good night – send your energies for everybody to be able to take the decisions with the right level of discernment!!!!
This will make this world a better world!!